Breaking up with a friend is sometimes even harder than with a romantic partner.
I never thought about how painful it would be. The moment I realized that my best friend was actually not my best friend anymore.
I didn’t want to believe that we had grown apart — to think about that fact that we hadn’t seen each other in months.
I didn’t want to believe that my best friend all throughout high school no longer cared about coming to visit me or was interested in making plans to go to concerts or movies or do any of the things we used to enjoy doing together.
I didn’t want to believe that she hadn’t asked me once in the last month how I was doing. But it was true, I was just no longer a priority to her anymore.
Strong friendships are very important to our well being, and way more than we might realize. No one wants to feel like they’re alone, and that’s a feeling I’ve become way too familiar with after my friendship breakup.
When I was in high school. I hung out with the same girl all the time. She was everything I could ask for in a friend, and I thought our friendship was just as valuable to her as it was to me.
However, when we graduated things just started to change.
We both went to different colleges, and I started dating my boyfriend. I didn’t think it would matter at first because I wanted to believe that our friendship would always be strong.
Little did I realize how much effort it takes to actually keep a friendship going nowadays, and how exhausting it would become to be the only one making an effort.
I hung onto this friendship for 2 years after I realized it was dissolving. I would text her even though I didn’t expect her to text back, and I would try to make plans even though I knew her response would be “sorry, I’m busy.”
If you want to keep your friendships after high school, you have to push pretty damn hard. But why is that? Is it because people are too self-absorbed, or are people just too lazy to go the distance? Whatever the case is, I’m starting to lose a lot of hope in finding true friends.
And if you want to have genuine friendships, you have to let go of the ones that aren’t healthy anymore. If someone wants to see you, they’ll come see you. If someone wants to talk to you, they’ll return your calls.
No one is too busy for their friends, and if someone says they are, then they’re not worth keeping around.
So if you’re having a hard time letting go of a broken friendship, or are questioning the quality of the friends you already have, here are 30 quotes that will encourage you to surround yourself with real, genuine people and heal from a friendship breakup.
If you’re searching for the best quotes and memes to share with the people you love (or just want to feel inspired yourself) … look no further! From the sweetest love quotes, inspirational sayings, and hilarious friendship truths, we’ve got you covered.
Only true friends can interpret your silence
“Only those who care about you can hear you when you’re quiet.”
Real friends will want to catch up with you
“If my absence doesn’t affect your life then my presence has no meaning to it.”
You have to look at the friendship for what it really is
“Closure happens right after you accept that letting go is more important than projecting a fantasy of how the relationship could have been.”
You’re not obligated to stay friends with anyone you don’t want to
“I reserve the right to be choosy about what and who I allow in my life.”
Surround yourself with friends who honor and respect you
“Do yourself a favor and learn how to walk away… there are tons more waiting to love you better. Do better.”
True friends WANT to be there for you
“We’re not close anymore, but I’ll be here if you need me.”
Some people are only meant to be in your life temporarily
True friendship knows no distance
“The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.”
Make new friends, but keep the old
“Making new friends shouldn’t mean losing old ones.”
One of the most realest things I’ve ever heard
“Some people aren’t loyal to you, they are loyal to their need of you. Once their need changes, so does their loyalty.”
No ones want to feel forgotten about
This is real test of true friendship
“True friendship isn’t about being there when it’s convenient, it’s about being there when it’s not.”
Don’t forget to be your own friend
“Make as many friends as you can, but don’t build your life on them alone. It’s an unstable foundation.”
You can go from friends to strangers with someone way too quickly
“That’s how it usually goes, MOVE ON.”
Friends are supposed to help make you a better person
This is important
“friendship cause heartbreaks too.”
Let time change things for the BETTER
“It’s weird how time changes things.”
True friends won’t let you suffer alone
“Hard times will always reveal true friends.”
Sometimes it just ends up that way
“Once best friends, now strangers with memories.”
True friendship goes both ways
“When you realize that you’re constantly treating a person a lot better than they treat you, it’s time to make a change.”
You should be spending your energy on more genuine relationships
“I no longer have the energy for meaningless friendships, forced interactions, or unnecessary conversations.”
One of the hardest things in LIFE
“It can be one of the hardest things in life to lose your best friend.”
This is for the best, trust me
“Sometimes you have to give up on people. Not because you don’t care, but because they don’t.”
Give your time to the things that make you happy, not the things that don’t
“Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.”
Real friendship isn’t about how often you see each other
Sometimes the memories are all you need
“Sometimes the memory of someone is better than the reality of them.”
I feel this on so many levels
“Do you ever feel like you aren’t even friends with some of your friends?”