Love can come with some heartache.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again; being cheated on sucks.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve been in a relationship for three months or three years. When you find out you’ve been cheated on, it can be the worst heartbreak you can feel. This is a person who was supposed to love you and stay committed to you, yet has totally betrayed your trust. But not only that, this person probably didn’t even think twice about what he (or she) was doing to you — until he got caught.
One of the worst things about having to deal with a cheater after you find out is having to listen to him tell you how sorry he for hurting you. Let’s get one thing straight: cheating is NOT an accident. Ever. You know darn well what you’re doing, whether you feel bad about it or not.
So when you hear about someone getting even angrier as their partner goes on and on about what a big mistake it was to cheat on them, it makes sense just try to put yourself in their shoes. Because at some point in their relationship, that person’s partner was thinking about someone who was not them. And that realization can hurt a LOT. So apologizing after the fact just makes it seem like as long as you say you’re sorry and promise never to do it again, then that’s enough.
Everyone copes with being cheated on differently. Some seek out the comfort of their best friends, some go looking for revenge, some sleep with someone else. But even if you do all or none or some of these, it can be hard to express exactly how it feels to be cheated on.
Now, I’m not saying you have to bounce back right away, but sometimes, the best way to get over a cheater is by showing him that your life is WAY better now than it ever was when you were with him. That might mean taking up an exercise class and getting the revenge body you’ve always wanted, or it might mean getting a new job and moving across the country so that you don’t even have to worry about running into him anymore.
But until that day comes when you can get back to feeling like your old self — the “you” that was confident, happy, and carefree (and not worrying about what your exes are up to — you need to surround yourself with all kinds of positivity. Positive people, positive vibes, positive words; that is the only way you’re going to get over a cheater.
Because the more you stay in your negative mindset, the less likely you are to pick yourself up and find happiness again. Yes, it’s going to be hard, but the hard work is worth it in the end.
To help you stay positive and on top of your game, here are some of the best quotes about being cheated on that will help you start the healing process. You might not think of reading quotes when someone hurts you, but words can be very powerful and significant when trying to find who you are again.
On losing someone good.
“They say: You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone. Truth: You knew exactly what you had; you just thought you’d never lose it.”
On deleting a cheater from your life.
“We met, we talked, we liked, we texted, we dated, we committed, I loved, you cheated, we’re done, you’re deleted.”
On being a grown up.
“If you’re going to cheat, you probably shouldn’t be in a relationship. Grow up and treat people like people instead of tools in your selfish ego workshop.”
On staying strong.
“It’s okay to cry over him. It’s even okay to forgive him. But do not go back to him. If he did not know how to love you the first time, he won’t know how to do it the next.”
On being better.
“Don’t get mad. Don’t get even. Do better. Much better. Rise above. Become so engulfed in your own success that you forget it ever happened.”
On apologizing and meaning it.
“Apologies don’t mean anything if you keep doing what you’re sorry for.”
On being honest.
“I tried to keep us together, but you were busy keeping secrets.”
On wanting to change your past.
“If I could go back to the day we met, I would turn around and walk away.”
On fighting for the right thing.
“As I was fighting for you, I realized I was fighting to be lied to, fighting to be taken for granted, fighting to be disappointed, and fighting to be hurt again… So I started fighting to let go.”
On making the right choice for yourself.
On making intentional choices.
“Cheating and lying do not just happen by accident. They are intentional choices, so stop hiding behind the word “mistake” when you get caught.”
On true loyalty.
“If you cheated on a person that was willing to do anything for you, you actually cheated yourself out of true loyalty.”
On hurting people you don’t care about.
“There is no way a man can love you and lie to you over and over again. You don’t hurt the people you love.”
On wanting what you don’t have.
“Most people cheat because they’re paying more attention to what they’re missing rather than what they have.”
On placing blame.
“When someone accuses you of doing something you’re not doing, it’s usually because they’re the ones doing it.”
On throwing away something good.
“Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.”
On what cheating really is.
“Cheating isn’t always kissing, touching, or flirting. If you gotta delete text messages so your partner won’t see them, you’re already there.”
On risking it all.
“Someone who loves you wouldn’t put themselves in a position to lose you.” — Trent Shelton
On being in love with the idea of someone.
“You weren’t in love with me, not really. You just loved the way I always made you feel. Like you were the center of my world. Because you were. I would have done anything for you.”
On knowing how to spot a cheater.