The art of seduction is knowing what she really wants and slowly giving it to her in a way that takes her breath away. – Unknown
Seduction is a real art and in order to master it, you need to be patient. After all, ‘patience is a virtue’ and every single achievement requires a certain amount of patience if you want to be successful.
Seduction is an art in itself but seducing a girl is beyond it. Seducing a girl requires certain skills and traits like intelligence, generosity, mystery and patience and don’t be afraid that you don’t own any of these.
You do. Every single one of us possesses the same qualities but to a certain degree. Someone might be more eloquent, while another can be a master of mystery and vice versa. But you need to know that improvement is the key when it comes to seducing a woman.
You need to find the perfect balance.
Finding the perfect balance is mandatory if you’re interested in how to seduce any girl you want. Now, what does finding the perfect balance mean? Does it mean that you need to find the perfect balance while standing up after too much drinking because you’ve been too nervous?
Definitely not. It means you need to find the perfect balance regarding conversation, confidence, mystery, being humorous, complimenting her and so on. You see, there are many factors playing a part in the art of seduction.
For example, you will never be able to seduce a woman if you’ve been humorous all night but you forgot to remain mysterious or if you’ve been showering her with compliments but you forgot to pay attention to what she’s been saying to you.
Seduce her mind and you can have her body.
Being a master of seduction means creating harmony by appeasing every single aspect of her mind so that she feels comfortable around you. And if you’re able to seduce her mind, you will be able to have her body as well.
A girl needs to feel special and she needs to see that you’re making an effort. This is golden advice when it comes to seducing women. If you succeed in making her feel special, half of your job is done.
Remember, it’s all in their mind. If you succeed in making her feel like a goddess, she will feel seduced and if she feels so, she will act like it, too. The key to success is in making her FEEL seduced and not in the sole act of seducing her.
And to make her feel seduced, you need to work on yourself, be persistent and, most importantly, you need to be patient.
Never rush things!
If you rush things, it will create a countereffect and the damage will be almost irreversible. Remember to take things slowly and act in accordance with her body language.
That way, you will always be in control of the situation and one step ahead of her. And even if you make a mistake, you will be able to correct yourself.
And real seduction masters know that success doesn’t only mean not making mistakes. It means being aware of your mistakes and knowing how to correct yourself. And that is how you’ll become a master of seduction in no time.
Top 15 tips on how to seduce any girl you want
1. Make an effort to look your best
When it comes to seduction, rule number one is to make an effort to look your best. Wear your best clothes, take care of your hygiene and let your hairstyle be your trademark (though it doesn’t have to be anything fancy).
Just show her that you’re feeling really good in your skin and that you’ve made an enormous effort to look your best for her. And that is what will make her feel special. She needs to know that you care about what she thinks of your appearance.
And if you’re only interested in yourself, she will notice and she will be suspicious of your intentions. Being only interested in yourself means not giving a damn about what she thinks of your appearance and wearing the first thing that comes to mind. (Don’t do that!).
2. Find the balance in conversation
The second thing you need to pay attention to is finding the balance in conversation with her. What does this mean? It means listening to her but not being silent and talking to her but not being dominant.
You need to find the perfect balance of listening and talking so that she doesn’t feel neglected. You want to let her know that you’re interested in everything she has to say to you and that you have some interesting things to discuss with her.
Talking only about yourself or boasting is a big NO. Seducing a girl is all about listening to her and keeping the conversation flowing without an awkward silence, excessive muttering or similar.
3. Remain mysterious
Remember, mystery is your key ingredient when it comes to seducing. Being mysterious means saying enough to make her interested and knowing when to retreat to make her want more. It’s the perfect balance of giving and preserving something for yourself.
If you’re talking about yourself, you will remain mysterious if you leave some details for yourself. You can do this by starting to explain some event from your past and suddenly stopping and switching to something else.
She will immediately want to know more about you and that is how you create mystery. Make her question some things about you without you confirming or discarding them. Mystery is a powerful weapon of seduction and once you learn to use it properly, you will be a god of seduction.
4. Be confident
Confidence. Similar to mystery, confidence is another powerful weapon when it comes to seduction. I don’t think it’s even necessary to explain the importance of being confident but repetitio est mater studiorum (repetition is the mother of study).
A girl will know you’re confident if you have a good, healthy posture, if you’re looking her in the eye, if you’re talking clearly, if you’re relaxed and so on. But a girl will know you’re not confident if you have a forward head posture, if you’re avoiding eye contact, if you’re muttering, fidgeting or similar.
Pay attention to your body language and even if you’re not that relaxed, you can always fake being confident and that’s the beauty of seducing. You might be on fire on the inside but you can cover all of it from the outside.
5. Make her laugh
Girls love to laugh and more than anything girls love when you make an effort to make them laugh. Some guys take this too seriously and go to another level of acting like they’re a stand-up comedian on a stage and not with the girl they want to seduce.
Make her laugh but have boundaries. If she shows you that she laughs her ass off at your jokes, that doesn’t mean that you should continue until she bursts. Modesty is everything.
Say a joke or two or make fun of yourself and then switch to something else more serious. If she sees that the only thing you’re doing is making her laugh, she will think of you as being incapable of having a serious conversation with her.
And if you want to seduce her, you need to make her feel understood and listened to. And you certainly can’t do that if you’re the only one preaching (or making her laugh).
6. Avoid any sexual touch
Seducing is not about touching her everywhere and hoping that you’ll eventually hit the right spot. That’s called being intrusive and not seductive. You need to show her that you’re a gentle, reasonable man, treating her with respect.
And that is why you should avoid any sexual touch, even though this is the first thing that naturally comes to mind when we mention the word seduction. But the truth is that seduction has nothing to do with sexual touch. It is just a product of seduction but it’s not a necessary part of its process.
7. Use the power of light touch
When it comes to touching, remember one thing: less is more. You will seduce her if you hold her hand, gently touch her shoulder or any other part of her body that is not sexual. Remember that you want to subtly light the fire and not burn everything to the ground.
And when she feels this small flame within her body, she will secretly beg you to continue touching her more because she will want more. And when you reach that point, you will be the one who is in control of the game called seduction.
8. Compliment her
Remember that phrase ‘seduce her mind and you can have her body’? Well, the easiest way to seduce her mind is to compliment her. Complimenting her means making her feel special and making her feel special means seducing her.
Tell her that her hair looks amazing and ask her how she managed to get it so perfect. We all know how much effort girls put into their hair and if you compliment it, you’ll have just won the jackpot.
Compliment her outfit, her choice of colors (especially if they are bright ones that only brave people would wear), tell her that you love her smile, compliment her achievements or personality, compliment whatever comes to your mind.
The best thing is that you can never fuck things up with compliments (if you’re being moderate, of course).
9. Set the romantic mood
Setting the mood means making her feel relaxed comfortable in your company. The easiest way to set the right mood is to take her out for a romantic dinner or somewhere else where the atmosphere has those romantically seductive vibes.
Candles, the right lighting and even the colors all play an important role when it comes to setting the mood. You need to be aware of the fact that you’ll never be able to seduce her if you’re sitting in a crowded diner.
Set the mood in accordance with your intentions. If you prefer a casual night, invite her to your place and make sure to decorate everything in a subtle, romantic glow. Once you have the perfect mood, it will be much easier to continue the art of seducing.
10. Be a gentleman
Being a gentleman is the biggest shortcut you can take when it comes to seducing a girl. What does it mean to be a gentleman? It means making her feel comfortable, respected, listened to, appreciated and taken care of.
Summarized, it means treating her like a queen. And who doesn’t want to be treated like that? Would you reject someone who treated you like a king? I thought not.
A gentleman knows when to say the right thing and how to say it. A gentleman knows when it is the time to retreat and when it is the time to continue doing the same.
Being a gentleman means being at her service but don’t confuse this with being her servant. You need to show her that you respect yourself first.
11. Observe her body language
Observing her body language is crucial. This will prevent you from making mistakes and it will improve your efforts.
Her body language can tell you much more about how she feels than her words can. If you make sure to pay attention to her body language, you will always be able to notice if something’s wrong.
You will notice if she’s feeling bored or if she’s entertained, if she feels confused or on alert. You will also notice if she’s feeling excited or not interested in what you’re saying to her.
And once you notice it, you can always ask her if she’s feeling bored and you can immediately make fun of yourself regarding this and you’ll save the situation. Don’t forget that observation is a necessary skill when it comes to seducing.
12. Build anticipation
Anticipation is closely related to mystery. Building anticipation means giving her everything bit by bit in a slow manner. For example, talking slowly is ten times more seductive than talking fast, like a football commentator.
If you talk slowly (but not too slow), she will be in a constant realm of anticipation waiting for you to say more on a certain topic. If you touch her subtly, she will yearn and wait for some more of it.
The law of anticipation can be applied to almost anything. Just remember to stay calm, don’t rush the talking, do some light touching and you’ll be good.
Anticipation means expectation and if she’s expecting you to continue doing what you are doing, you know that you’re doing a great job.
13. No alcohol or cursing
Yup. If you want to seduce that girl, make sure to avoid alcohol and cursing at all costs. The feeling of anxiety before a date is not a valid excuse for drinking too much. And the habit of cursing is also not a valid excuse to continue doing so while you’re trying to seduce her.
I’m sure you can see the contradiction between seducing and alcohol and cursing. It’s simply impossible to seduce someone while you’re acting like a savage. If she hears you constantly cursing, she will not be tempted enough to listen to any of your shit anymore.
You want to show her what a real gentleman you are and you’ll succeed in it if you stay away from excessive drinking and throwing F-bombs. This might sound cool when you’re among your friends but it’s a completely different story when you’re in the process of seduction and not repulsion.
14. Give her something special
While the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, the way to a woman’s heart is through giving her something special. You want to make that girl feel the urge to brag to her friends about your gift to her.
Give her something special. Find something pretty and unique and surprise her when she least expects it. It doesn’t have to be big. It can be the most trivial thing in your mind but in hers, it will probably be the most valuable thing someone has ever given her.
And that’s what you want to achieve. You want to seduce her by giving her something special that will make her feel special. Isn’t that beautiful?
15. Pay attention to her preferences
Remember to always, always pay attention to her preferences and you’ll do this by listening to her. Is there any specific TV show she likes to watch? Does she like going for long walks? What is her favorite meal?
You can learn a lot about the things she likes and dislikes if you just pay attention to what she’s saying to you. And then you can use this to your advantage by surprising her with her favorite meal or a ticket to see her favorite band.
And guess what? You’ll seduce her. Oh, yes. Be sure that she will be seduced without even being aware of it. And that is when you’ll realize that all of your hard work and patience are finally being rewarded.